My Name is Daudi, iam 38 years and a month ago my life changed when i was introduced to my real father and i do not like him!!

I have grown up under a kind and generous man that i thought to be my dad all this time, only to be shocked with this rubbish!

Meeting the elders in my new family, they discussed me changing the names of my 4 children and i said i do not want to, this is already causing me issues!

In my anger, i might also have called my mom some very bad words!

How do i get over the betrayal and become normal? And when is it okay for me to speak to my mother again??

Please Advise..